Saturday, March 29, 2008

Sheikh Abdallah Adhami

Advice to Husbands


http://www.crescentlife.com/family%20matters/advice_to_husbands.htm


By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be her; during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.



The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Quranic verse which says: "they are your garments and you are their garments" Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaska journey.



The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of God. Only God Almighty in His infinite power, boundless mercy, and great wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact God is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Quran," And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect"
But the human heart is not a static entity, it is very dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, and nurtured. Remember that our Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She outstripped him but later after she had gained some weight, he outstripped her. Remember that the Prophet took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances.
The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating. Remember that you will be rewarded by God for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet said "one would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of God even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife" Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc.





Remember that the Prophet used to extend his knee to his wife to help her ride her camel...
Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and God is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with God will always result in having more peace at home. Remember that the Prophet gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by throwing cold water on his/her face.
Always try your best to be be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet said "the best of you are those who are best to their wives" Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for a few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents" Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said "I don't like yours either"... Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses and offspring. The best example in this regard is the Prophet whose love to Khadija his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send parts of it to Khadija's friends and whenever he felt that the visitor on the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying "O Allah let it be Hala"

Monday, March 24, 2008

Sheikh Abdul Hakim Quick

The Truth about Holidays
Please listen to the information in this video because there is some important stuff about the pagan roots of Christan celebrations.

Monday, March 10, 2008

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Narrations of light

Narrations of Light upon the Merits of Invoking Blessings Upon the Chosen Prophet
Imām Abū al-`Abbās Ahmad ibn Ma`add al-Uqlīshī
http://www.marifah.net/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=102&Itemid=53

The most superior of your days is Friday, it is the day Adam was created, the seizing will occur, the trumpet will be blown and the souls will be clutched. So increase your invocations upon me, for they are shown to me." They asked, "How are our invocations shown to you, when you have disintegrated?" He said, "Allāh Most high has prohibited the bodies of the Prophets from being consumed by the earth.

Here is the German translation:
http://www.ahlu-sunnah.de/main/attachments/237_Segenswunsche.pdf

Friday, March 07, 2008

Sheikh Abdul-aziz Ahmed Fredricks

Legacy of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) part one of two

He asked us to renew our intention, he recited the dua of Imam Haddad, for studying

Remind people

We need to indicate to people the right direction

We bring ourselves closer to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala by bring others to him

A man called Qaiys ibn Kathr travelled from Medina to Damascus, just to visit Abu Darr for this hadith. “The Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said: "For him who adopts a path of seeking knowledge, Allah eases the way in Paradise, and Angels spread their wings for the seekers of knowledge, being pleased with his occupation, and all that is in the heavens and the Earth including the fish in the water, ask for his forgiveness. The learned are the heirs of the Prophets and the Prophets do not leave an inheritance of dirhams and dinars, but only of knowledge. He who acquires knowledge acquires a vast portion." [Abu Dawood and Tirmidhi]

(Then he asked us to ask our neighbour, what there name was and what would it be)
If you had one thing to take out of your burning house, what would it be?

Zakariya (upon him peace) asked Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala for a child, he mentioned all the benefits of Allah Subhanu wa ta’alas blessings

We have made this book (Quran) for them to inherit

Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala has chosen the Quran as a legacy for this nation

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) if someone does ten things, enters heaven. In the first 10 ayats of Sura Muminoon (sura 23 See Quran and other notes on this blog)

Practice these verses, you will enter heaven

The Prophets (upon them peace) were chosen, not inherited

The closest people are the ones who inherit. If you want to learn about someone, then you find the closest person to that person

Knowledge is what takes you away from Dunya/world and takes you to the Akhira/afterlife

Like the superoirity of the moon over the stars, the moon is closest to us and doesn’t generate its own light

The moon reflects light

There was a teacher who wanted to mislead a person away from Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala and made that person repeat Al-Basal (the onion). When he began to think about it, his sincerity lead him to Allah Subhanu wa ta’ala

So the teachers intention doesn’t change the students intention

satan wants to mislead you

He will encourage people to perform worship when you have no wudu

The alim makes two rakat and goes to sleep

The sleep of the alim is better than the worship of the ignorant

The learned man can put right his worship – his or others peoples worship

Angels will ask for forgiveness for the Alim

Fish ask for forgiveness for the students

The fish quota has been put down by the European union upon the request of the Norwegians, at the behest of the Scots.

Who do the fish support?

The students and the scholars

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Intention of the learner

I wish to extent on what was said before. Your intention must be solely to attain Allah subhanu wa ta'ala s pleasure in learning.

Please see this dua and intention of the learner on this link (thanks to the person who sent the link in) http://www.haqaonline.com/halaqa/intentions.html

You should make your intention before going out to learn; before you set out to learn. Make dua to understand the knowledge and implement, the knowledge you have learnt practically.

What you have learned must benefit you, if it doesn't its like a man who is given soap he doesn't use it and complains about the smell of other people. Or like the man who sells soap but never uses it thinking it enough that he can sell it; he doesn't have to use it. This person is deluded, wake up, if you do not benefit from your knowledge what is the point of attending the lecture.

Although your reward in passing on your knowledge is there; even if the people do not do the action but the words are that much stronger with action behind them.
If you are in state where you don't practise what you preach, then you are worse off than someone who doesn't know. The fact you have learned something can be a proof against you and not for you.
You should not learn to make feel people feel inferior or to degrade them; if you do this then it better that you remain ignorant and stay at home. There is no point in learning if you are just doing it to win an argument. This shows insincerity and a lack of respect to the knowledge and these things will actually take your further away from Allah subhanu wa ta'ala, not closer.
Make it easy for others and don't make it hard, be harsh on yourself; if you want to be harsh on anyone.

A person shouldn't be forced to learn except in what is obligatory for him to learn, after that they should decide. The obligatory knowledge is enough; Prayer, Basic belief, a text of purification and or any other knowledge that a person needs in their situation; ie buying and selling etc.

Purify your intention and make it solely for Allah subhanu wa ta'ala. This may mean you have to go back and re-check your intention several times.

Habib Ali Al-Jifri and Sheikh Hamza Yusuf

Jihad Q and A parts one to three










Sunday, March 02, 2008