The Disputations

Part forty one

1. Imam al-Haddad said, "rituals [acts of worship] absent from hudur [presence] are like dust in the wind." P.37 setting out

2. About the misunderstanding that the Imam should have a fist length beard : Nur Al idah, maraqi Al falah, Hidayah, tuhfat al-muluk, ikhtiyar, it's commentary including the hashiyah of nur Al idah. All do not mention that having a beard is part of imamah. The first three points are knowledge, valid tajweed and piety.
The description of fasiq is someone who has no care for his religion at all. Not someone without a beard.
Nuff said

3. You are asked twice about your earnings: how you earned and how you spent it. Make sure it's lawful.

4. Nine types of people are cursed because of their involvement in wine. The same applies for illegal drugs. Yes it does.

5. "A person who speeds in a fast car in built up areas. Has a sin for each person he disturbs. 1000s of sins. Plot lost"

6. The reason why pak girls are doing better in education and work than boys: girls have responsibilities and work at home so it easy for them to study, work hard and achieve academic excellence when outside the home. The boys are treated like kings at home and everything is handed to them on a plate. So when they go into education and the work place they expect the same and cannot handle it when they don't get it. So do not achieve their potential.
Lesson: don't spoil your kids because you ruin their lives. Parents have a lot of responsibility to make boys realise they are not kings.

7. Learning to deal with loss is the lesson you need to learn to survive

8. In one of the books imam al-Ghazali someone asked a belligerent child why he was not obeying his parents, he said, "because they don't fear Allah."
 This paints quite a picture about the parents complaining about their kids. Do they fear Allah? If they don't then their kids will not.

9. A sign one is cursed is blaming others for your sins when you are well aware you are wrong

10. It's a full time 24-7 to correct the incorrect information about Islam on the Internet so don't take your religion from it. Take it from real teachers not updates!

11. General rule about kids: tire them out or they will tire you out.

12. When Sidi Abu Madyan (r) went to fez in 11th century, he only found one teacher he connected to, Sidi Ali Hirzihim (r). So this was at the height of knowledge. So do you really think our times are better? Real teachers are rare and even rarer now.

13. Seems like there are a lot of parents who don't know how to bring up children.

14. Ibn Ajibah (r) said, "Ones tasawwaf is like a tree without fruit when you do not perfect one's character."

15. The blossom of a weed and the blossom of a flower are totally different but to some they seem the same?!

16. What's the point crying over the death of a scholar who you did not study with, during his life?

17. Parents who complaint about their kids being spoilt should look in the mirror and blame the person staring back!

18. Ali كرم الله وجهwas asked about the world, he said, "the lawful of it is accountable and prohibited is punishable." Ihya

19. What wajib can a woman not do without sin? Not replying to a greeting from a man she does not know or fears harm

20. "False hopes are more dangerous than fears." J R r Tolkien

21. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, "Allah will torture those who tortured people in the world." Muslim